How does she act and treat you? Does she make herself available to you the right amount of time (not too little or too much) for dates and conversation? Is she too emotional? Too cold? Is she unreliable or dependable? Late or punctual? Is she too jealous or insecure, not letting you have female friends? Regarding sex and affection, is there too little or too much? Is she kind and thoughtful? She is passionate about (fill in cause/hobby/idea). Does she expect you to spend too much money? Is she a good person to live with? Does she want to start a family? Will she be a good mother? How much time does she expect you to spend together? Will you be together all the time or is she less needy regarding how much time you need to spend with her? Does she embarrass, attack, or belittle you? Does she respect you as a person and a man? Is she too controlling or overbearing? Communications Is she a good listener, or does she not listen? Does she talk too much or too little? Does she interrupt you while you’re speaking? Is she disrespectful of your opinions? Can she talk through problems, bringing issues up in a constructive way? Is she open to resolution or compromise? Is she articulate, expressing herself intelligently? Does she complain or criticize too much? Does she swear or use vulgar language too much? How does she treat others? Is she respectful of other people? Is she mean-spirited or hateful? Does she complain too much? How does she treat waitstaff, people in stores, cleaning people, and service people? How does she treat children? How does she treat the elderly? Is she giving and charitable, or is she selfish? How will your most cherished friends, and the people in your family whose opinions and views you value the most, get along with her? Will these social interactions go well? Will those close to you like her? About her current situation Does she have children now? Does she have the same goals as you regarding having children (timing, number, when to start)? Is she lazy or sloppy about housework or cleaning in the home? Is she okay with money and finances? Does she spend too much money or too little? Do you like her family? Will they be a problem in any way, or are they great people? Does she have a strong family background? Does she have strong ties to her family? Does she like to travel, or does she prefer to stay at home? Does she smoke, drink, do drugs, or have any substance abuse issues? Does she have a healthy lifestyle? Does she have good table manners and generally practice good etiquette? Is she active with a fit lifestyle? Is there an acceptable adventure-to-homebody ratio? What is her financial situation? Does she have a lot of credit card, student loan, or other debt? Does she have a gambling problem or a worrisome credit score? How does she handle stress? Is it medication, alcohol, outbursts, depression? Does she have a good sense of humor? Does she have a good sense of style and good hygiene? Does she have a love of life, vivaciousness, energy, curiosity? Is she organized and dependable, or is she unreliable? Is she caring, selfless? Is she well-educated (what level)? Are her religious beliefs compatible with yours? What is the quality of her friends? Does she have many close friends? Does she like pets, especially your pets and animals? Are your political beliefs or affiliations compatible? Are your social beliefs or affiliations compatible? Does she make too many bad major decisions? Does she keep bad company, or have problematic family or friends? Here is an example of what a completed scorecard might look like: Quality Weight Score Is she kind and thoughtful? 5 5 Does she smoke, drink, do drugs, or have any substance abuse issues? 10 5 Is she well-educated (what level)? 5 3 How will your most cherished friends and the people in your family, whose opinions and views you value the most, get along with her? Will they like her? 20 15 Does she have a love of life? Is she vivacious, energetic? 5 5 How does she treat children? 5 5 Is she okay with money and finances? Does she spend too much money or too little? 20 10 Does she expect you to spend too much money? 5 5 Is she a good person to live with? 20 15 How is her sense of humor? 5 5 TOTAL: 100 73